Speak your truth to find happy and authentic living
Do you always speak your truth? Do always stand up for yourself? Are there things which need to be said but you avoid saying?
To speak your truth can be tricky. We worry about many things such as:
- I will look silly
- They will not agree with what I say
- It is not my place to say
- The will not like what I have to say
It is one thing which many of my clients and myself have experienced and is such a barrier to us living as the best version of ourselves. Whether it be that friend who is taking advantage, problems at work, disagreements with our partner or children. There are so many opportunities where we withhold who who we are and what we think. Keep ourselves unheard. The key to authentic living is to develop these three skills to speak your truth:
- The confidence to know what you think and need
- The confidence to say it
- The communication skills to deliver it
1. Know what you think and need
How can you put your point across if you yourself do not know what you are feeling or in fact who you are or what you need? For us to communicate authentically we need to be clear on what we need, what we believe and what we feel. Spend time focusing on who you are, what your core values are, what you want to bring to life and what you need from others for you to be the best you.
2. The confidence to say it
Know that your opinion is as valid as any other person. When you feel strongly about something and do not communicate it you give away your power and shrink. We deny our needs and this send a powerful message to the unconscious that you are not deserving or worthy. You have the right to make mistakes and change your mind and you deserve to have your voice heard.
3. Speak your truth
When it comes to communication, if you have needs which are not being met, then there are certain ways to speak your truth to get the best possible outcome. Do this in the following way.
Do not make it an attack on the other person and make it about your needs, for example do not say: ‘When you do not put the washing away it makes me angry and I hate it.’
Instead make it about your needs and give clear instruction about what exactly you need, it is less aggressive, and more clear and directive. For example: ‘I am finding it hard when you do not put the washing away and what I really need moving forward is for you to put it away for me.’
Of course the people in your life may not change/help/adapt to your needs and then you are faced with another decision to make. Is this situation working for me? If not then maybe you need to take an action to change other things and maybe spend less time with that person/situation/change jobs.
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is about, good communication, emotional resilience, managing your mind and getting the results you want in life. If you want to know more about NLP and how with it you can create more happiness and success then please join our free online training on ‘NLP Success and happiness without the technical jargon.’ You can register below.
Wishing you a simply clear mind and life from Simply Clear Coaching
NLP Trainer and Coach