Happiness is the thing which we are all searching for, right? What is this elusive thing that we crave, desire, need?
As a child, I remember wanting a certain toy at Christmas and at the time it felt as though my happiness and fundamental existence very much depended on having it. At times I have felt lonely and thought having a partner would make me happy and there have been times I’ve been so busting for the toilet, I felt immense happiness when the moment came for me to pee.
Happiness is as unique as your finger print. It is not something which you can buy over the counter, it’s not something you can touch, or catch, it is not a fixed thing, neither is it something which someone can give you. Happiness is a complex recipe of individuality, experiences, beliefs, expectations and attitude.
What brings us happiness?
From my time working as a therapist, coach and NLP Trainer, more happiness is one of the most common requests I receive. My clients definitely find more happiness and joy in their life, however it is not a one size fits all formula. Here are some of the general shifts my clients make which lead to more happiness.
Let go of expectation
If we grip so hard to deadlines and trains of thought, we lose sight of options, possibilities, growth and daily gratitude. Have passion, have focus, but have flexibility. Feel around you, what is showing itself to you, what hints are you getting that are pointing the way?
Know that nothing is permanent
Sometimes we are floating high on cloud 9 and sometimes we feel like we have fallen in a hole. Life is like this by design. Whatever you are feeling or whatever your situation, it will change. The art of happiness is to enjoy the highs right there it that moment, without trying to squeeze it to death or cling on.
When it comes to tougher times, an attitude of acceptance is applied alongside a concrete understanding that things will change, can change and you can influence this, allowing you to ride the waves into happiness.
Take some risks
Humans like to be safe, familiar and comfortable. Taking risks is stepping into uncertainty, applying faith and leaping.
Nothing awesome was ever achieved without some degree of uncertainty; one of the biggest regrets of older people is that their dreams will die with them. We all have burning embers of dreams, passions and long forgotten ideas inside of us; which when fanned, become glorious roaring bonfires of fulfilment.
The soul needs feeding, it needs to be challenged and to grow. Take time to try new things and to learn new skills. What embers of yours need fanning? Which dreams are desperate to come out? What are you truly passionate about? Go on, take a chance.
Wishing you simply clear life,
Your Coach and Trainer